stain your wood
Before staining, make sure your wood is properly prepared for finishing. Then, apply your wood stain to the wood and allow it to dry.
Apply a white wash mixture to the wood
Mix about 1 part water to 1 part white paint. Apply the white wash paint mixture to the wood. Rub over the white wash paint strokes with a staining rag to smear the paint mixture into the wood.
Distress wood finish with sand paper
Finally, very lightly distress the wood finish with sandpaper until you achieve your desired look!